It sounds unlikely, but it’s a reality: it only takes one impossible or toxic person to make your life miserable. It can be a co-worker, your boss, a neighbor, a teammate or someone in your family or circle of friends/acquaintances.

Why is this the case?

An impossible person is someone who will make you doubt yourself. Over time, insidiously, this individual will eventually make you lose your self-esteem and self-confidence. And you know that self-esteem and self-confidence are what determine your way of being yourself and your ability to succeed in everything you do.

I think you’ll agree with me that we simply can’t have that. So how can prevent such a person from undermining us? Paul Chernyak and the folks at wikiHow have prepared a comprehensive article focusing on four specific angles of this problem:  how to handle conflicts, how to accept the situation, and how to protect yourself.

How to handle conflicts

  1. Never get defensive
  2. Disassociate, defuse and detach
  3. Avoid arguments
  4. Realize you probably can’t have a reasonable conversation
  5. Ignore them
  6. Ask a thought-provoking question
  7. Take some time off
  8. Show confidence
  9. Change your strategy
  10. Check your body language

How to accept the situation

  1. Consider it may be a question of compatibility
  2. Avoid picking up negative traits
  3. Learn from this experience
  4. Get ready for emotional mood swings
  5. Focus on the positive
  6. Speak to someone

How to protect yourself

  1. Preserve your self-esteem
  2. Protect your privacy
  3. Be the opposite
  4. Don’t focus on them
  5. Know that you may be dealing with an emotional abuser
  6. Set boundaries
  7. Part ways

To learn how to go about each one of these tactics, take a look at wikiHow’s post.


SOURCE: wikiHow